My original career was as a draughtswoman working in the electro-mechanical engineering field. I have worked in large, busy, male dominated environments working to tight deadlines. Back then I actually enjoyed the fast paced and, at times, stressful days working in consulting engineering. I have also experienced difficult work colleagues and managers, harassment, last minute changes leading to plenty of overtime and threat of redundancy etc, I am aware of the stresses and strains of business and how challenging it can be.
In the mid 90’s I enrolled on a massage course, then another massage course, then another! These were quickly followed by Reiki and Hopi Ear Candling. Before I knew it I had taken redundancy and was working from home as a Complementary Therapist. It wasn’t long before I discovered that a bad back was very often an emotional package – my clients were telling me their life story and I always ran over time in sessions!
I then took various support worker roles to gain further experience, the last one being in mental health, both community and in-patient, and has given me much experience in working with a diverse range of issues, I am used to working with various agencies to ensure the best care for each individual and have worked on a 1 to 1 basis as well as running community groups. I have worked for private providers, the NHS and Adult Services as a support worker and provided counselling in local GP surgeries for the NHS.
Along this journey is also my personal life. I think it is important to say that I haven’t just learnt everything I know from a text book or course tutor. In my life I have had plenty of those difficult times where you wonder “Is this it? Is this it for the rest of my life? Is this all I deserve?” You know, those tough times when you can’t see a way forward, the difficult relationships that you wished you never had – but actually teach you SO much about yourself, and the poor decisions based on inexperience or lack of support and guidance.
I have lived with an alcoholic and experienced the stress, intense fear, lack of money (because he drank it all) and eventually losing my home. I have been to Alanon - a 12 step recovery program for family and friends of alcoholics and worked the 12 steps. This is a spiritual program originating from AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, founded in 1935. It is known worldwide as the most successful recovery program. It later transpired that my alcoholic was self medicating his undiagnosed Bi-polar illness. Unbeknown to me I had been living with two illnesses which at the time I knew nothing about.
I have also been on the receiving end of psychological abuse and spent time in a womens refuge. It took me three attempts to leave. What followed was years of self reflection to understand why I chose the wrong kind of man - what was it in me that didn't believe I was worthy of a healthy relationship? We choose the people and situations in life so that we can learn from them.
I have had therapy, in different ways at different times in my life depending on my needs. We all benefit from help now and again to help us to see our blocks, even as therapists, and I believe that it helps me to be the best for my clients. It is what helps me to counsel, coach and mentor my clients.
I work in a very relaxed setting within my home in the Liss countryside. Whatever is troubling you, between us we will structure the sessions to suit your individual needs and requirements. I combine counselling, walk and talk, Reiki, EFT and Touch for Health Kinesiology in my practise as and when required.
One of my passions is the trait of high sensitivity. Dr Elaine Aron has written much about the Highly Sensitive Person and, as one myself, I am keen to help others to learn about and understand their innate trait. Read the relevant section for more information if you feel that you are ‘overly’ sensitive.
This is what Paul had to say about discovering his sensitive nature:-
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